Tea Party Etiquette

I love the tea party experience……tea cups, saucers, little silver spoons, sugar cubes, dainty napkins, shortbread cookies….I think of any excuse to have a “tea party” even if it is just because it’s a rainy Sunday afternoon, like today!

But did you know there are some very fancy rules one should follow if they find themselves at a tea table.

Let me enlighten you with some Tea Party Etiquette

First and foremost never hold your cup with your pinkie finger extended. This is improper and in most social settings it is considered rude.

When stirring your tea, be careful not to clink your spoon against the cup. Gently swish the spoon back and forth without touching the sides of the cup. When you are through stirring, remove the spoon and place it on the saucer behind the tea cup and to the right of the handle. Of course, never take a drink of your tea without removing the spoon first, and please never, ever sip from the spoon.



When you take a sip of tea, do not look around at the other guests, but lower your eyes so you can see what you are doing.

Scones are a traditional part of a proper tea. Split the scone with a knife. Since the knife is now used, lay it gently on the side of your plate.



Be sure to take small bites and never take a sip of tea to wash down your food. Tea is hot and not meant for this task.

If you ever have to leave the table, place your napkin on your chair, never the table.

Never blot or wipe your lipstick with a linen or cloth napkin.

The hostess will signal the end of the tea by picking up her napkin and laying it to the left of her plate.

Most importantly, enjoy the company of your fanciful tea loving friends.

Cheers!